I Just Love You - Five For Fighting

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summerburial:

existentrillest:

rbateson:

I feel like men are more romantic than women.  When we get married we marry one girl.

Cause we’re resistent the whole way, until we meet one girl and we think: “I’d be an idiot if I didn’t marry this girl she’s so great.”

But it seems like girls get to a place where they just kinda pick the best option or something. I know girls that married they’re like: “Oh he’s got a good job.”

I mean, they spend their whole life looking for Prince Charming and then they marry the guy who’s got a good job and is gonna stick around.

Schmehhhh

I call bullshit.

guys marry the girl that looks the best. that is all. her personality matters actually quite little. you’re interested in the personality until your eyes wander and then you pick the girl who looks stunning, who looks dope on your arm and makes you feel like a king. she will have a personality that doesn’t threaten nor bore the fuck out of you.

the reason why you can do this is because you have the luxury of being desirable at any age and we don’t have that luxury. because we don’t have that luxury, we settle. prince charming is a cunt that’s going to  leave us and they always do, eventually. they make us laugh and we think ”oh, a guy that finally appreciates us for who we are and we get each other” and then they don’t care anymore.

you can pick the girl you want because you know the girl will always want you back. after being abandoned and fucked over by the upteenth man, you get sick of it all and just want someone that won’t leave. I personally would rather be alone but hey, that’s just me.

it’s not that we don’t think we don’t deserve more than the dude with a good job who’s just going to stick around. we KNOW we do, it’s just that we can never get guys to see what we see.

don draper and the rest of the male population, case in point.

fuck alla y’all

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Preach, sister.

Ryan Gosling ain’t winning me over with this bullshit.

A good personality to men is usually just an added bonus. It’s not a requirement for all men. The other sex is highly stimulated by visuals. The beautiful young woman, sad as it may be, signifies power in this world. You own her, you are powerful. So when you’re powerful enough, you can swap women around. I guess it’s some sort of male fantasy. It goes with that power=masculinity fucking bullshit that instigates misogyny and gender constructs and patriarchy.

So what do women do when they find themselves in a position of instability? When they are constantly threatened by fear of abandonment because so much seems to revolve around looks in this shallow ass world?

They settle. They search for something that will give them stability.

And what about the rest of us who weren’t blessed with good looks from the get-go?

Quite a self-fulfilling prophecy, this. With that attitude, you’ll scare away any and all decent men.

I can just imagine a date:
“I think you’re really interesting, I’d like to see you again maybe next time?”
“NO YOU DON’T ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS DOMINATE ME, YOU’RE A NASTY MAN, GO AWAY. I’M NOT GOING TO SETTLE FOR A PIG LIKE YOU.”

There are two types of people in the world:

1. People who whine and moan about getting Facebook timeline.

2. People who don’t really care.

Both types of people will end up not remembering what pre-timeline Facebook looked like. Therefore, type 1 people appear to be whiny little drama queens.

Ridiculous.

It’s not “so you can donate to help the poor people in Africa”
It’s “so you can be swagalicious”

It’s not “raise funds for Africans”
It’s “sell amazing IC merch”

2012 is the year we will make $$.

http://www.ted.com/talks/rob_reid_the_8_billion_ipod.html

are you really that thick?

womanhood is not a fucking card. its what we live.

im not simply taking other people’s words. its what we live.

i never said women do not know how to defend ourselves because “we’re weaker.” and have we really descended to the level where we’re talking about resistance during rape? and how to injure a man’s genitals?

im done with you.

This is why we can’t have nice things.

Maybe you wouldn’t get so angry at other people if you weren’t so uptight about everything. I do suppose you missed the line where I said I was joshing with you.

tabulanonrasa:

im not refuting your saying “girls should protect themselves.” But you said that women were “partly responsible for facilitating rape.”

of course girls should protect themselves. hell, you dont think we already do it?  ive been followed around and harrassed and assaulted by men on the streets enough to know that i need to take measures of self-protection.

we dont need to be told to protect ourselves.

but this analogy to walking out into traffic doesnt make sense. youre positing the woman as the pedestrian and the men as cars. men can freely choose to get off their dangerous vehicles and walk alongside women or at least slow down. but instead, they choose to take advantage of their “greater physical power” and run them over.

my counterargument is that women and men are not equally responsible for rape just as a walker on a sidewalk is not as responsible as a speeding vehicle  who runs them over. 

the problem with your argument is the inherent hierarchy of danger that you’ve rendered immutable—the fact that women are always going to be in danger of men raping them.

why cant we change this and get to the root of the problem by teaching our men not to rape. 

stead of defending the men who fucked up?

thank you for your perspective. but you need to listen to a woman’s perspective. its not easy to understand if you don’t live in a woman’s body. 

Oh ho, I see you are pulling out the “I’m a woman, so I’m right” card.

Just joshing with you.

It’s totally true that I’m not saying that women and men are equally responsible for rape. I believe you’re simply taking the stances of other people that you’ve heard and applying those positions to me.

WOMEN ARE SLUTS, THEY DESERVE TO BE RAPED.
LOOK AT WHAT THEY WEAR, THEY’RE ASKING FOR IT.
etc.

I’m simply saying that this sort of acquaintance rape would not be possible if a girl took the proper steps to stop this sort of thing from happening.

It’s also not strictly true that a girl cannot defend herself because she’s weaker. See, if a guy wants to rape you, he’s going to have to use the most sensitive part of his body to do it. Have women somehow also been conditioned to believe that they are weaker and that resistance is futile? If some guy wants to have sex with you, and you don’t, a huge mood-killer is you punching him in the nuts. What’s he going to do to you? Kill you? No….

In a man’s perspective, it’s pretty difficult to resist those urges once they get started. I feel like this article is more or less accurate:
http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html